Learn and understand your partners dreams and wishes
Couples that really know each others’ hopes and dreams feel more connected. They have fuller, richer and more varied love maps and a better understanding of their spouse’s inner lives.
Women usually know what their husband's dream but that is not so true of men.
Wives are generally good at supporting their husbands to live out their dreams. Women are reared to support relationships and society supports men as the "breadwinner", the person most focused on doing what he wants to do to meet his needs as well as the needs of his family.
Men are also often good at being clear about what they want and need for career, recreational and social pursuits. While many men are respectful and mature in their commitment to home and family, they also recognize the importance of asking for and pursuing what is important to them.
Women need to learn how to speak up more as men learn to listen more
|Women are not as good at looking inward and focusing on themselves and
what is important to them … especially if it may be at some expense for
the family. Dreams may still be there, however women often put the
needs of the family above themselves. |
Women must find ways to recognize and respect their own dreams and share them out loud. Men must learn how to listen and ask questions so that they can support their wives.
Interestingly, John Gottman, who did a lot of research on healthy relationships, found that husbands who listen, understand and help their wives to achieve their dreams have better and stronger marriages.
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