Love Is A Choice
Have you seen the widely circulated email about making the choice to have a good or bad day? It starts out like this:
“John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, 'If I were any better, I would be twins!' He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
“Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, 'I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?'
“He replied, 'Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or ... I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or ... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.
“'Yeah, right, it's not that easy,' I protested.
“'Yes, it is,' he said. 'Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life.'”
Love is a choice, as well.
can wake up in the
morning and choose to think about the bad things about your partner and
everything that you do not like about him or her or you can choose to
think about the good things about your partner, the things that you like
and want to continue.
can choose to think about the problems in your relationship as ones
that may be fairly normal and ones that the two of you must work
together to solve. You can choose to recognize some of the
Couples in long-term healthy relationships say that they have seen each stress as something that they have to get through together rather than as something that might end their marriage. The view and attitude that you have colors your feelings. You have a choice in how you view your relationship. Love IS a choice.
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